What do you think of Romantic_thi3f's idea of imagining how vital this decision will feel to you in the future?
I think she has a point but I can also understand how bloody hard getting through school is. Good friendships make the experience easier and a less anxious one I found.
That said... Croix mentioned how things change. I agree. Even in the shortl years at school they (Groups, relationships) will change.
I think in your shoes I would choose the group who appreciate the members as they are.
When I started highschool my best friend knew others and I didn't. She made it clear I belonged with them and so this was my "group". They were popular and I got the feeling I should have been grateful but I watched how they treated eachother. Put downs. Competitive. Judgemental. Sometimes very cruel. And this was to "friends".
So I left. I told my friend the truth. That she would always be my best friend and welcome with me. But school is hard enough without having "friends" who you can't be yourself with. And I knew I didn't WANT to fit in there.
I don't regret making new friends. I had no interest in drugs and casual sex and being made to feel crap by friends for not being rich enough or pretty enough. Yes it hurt to "abandon" my friend.
But if someone cares enough they will try to understand. I was honest and I made it about me. It wasn't me rejecting them as friends. It was me saying I just don't care or prioritise about the same things as you do. She understood.
What do YOU enjoy? What is important to you? If you're going to feel guilty or rude or cruel or like you're ditching people shouldn't it be for something you want?
What do you think?