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Topic: Stressed out

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  1. Mousey22
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    4 April 2019

    Hi guys. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this so that is why I'm posting here.

    I currently work full time and study part time, so between both of these I have a solid 50-54 hour week plus homework, and because I work retail some nights I only get 3 - 4 hours sleep. I put myself in this situation and it is what I want to do, but my problem is that I have a lot of trouble at home (black sheep of the family and my dad has pretty much segregated me from the rest of the family and they all follow him unquestioningly), and I have recently had a couple of big bad arguments with my mum, who for a while I was actually getting on so good with.

    I'm just tired all of the time, trying to keep on top of things at school and we are overloaded at work because our employer always leaves the team hours down so we are constantly worker harder than we really should because they don't want to pay the proper amount of staff to work.

    So tonight I was just really struggling mentally before work finished and I don't usually get like this. I'm usually pretty mentally resilient but lately I've just struggled. Flat out at work, working hard at school, isolated and fighting with family when all I am asking for is support and to not be harrased by my old man. I mean he gives me the dirtiest looks, always tells me to 'get out', 'I've got more respect for the dog than you', 'gay guy', rah rah rah, same old story. And a coworker at work that has caused some trouble lately and doesn't like me at all because I stopped talking to him because of his negativity. My boss knows about our history but hasn't stepped up to the guy.

    Anyways yeah I'm just asking for some advice and some encouragement please because I only get negativity from my family and I don't have anyone else to listen. My brain feels lethargic and I don't want to take time off, I just want some encouragement from someone please, just a little bit. And advice on how to deal with stress when you are juggling bills, study, work, family problems, etc. Thanks guys.

  2. Summer Rose
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    4 April 2019 in reply to Mousey22

    Hi Mousey22

    Thanks for sharing your story. Sounds like you've got a lot on your plate and doing it tough on your own. Having said that, you are doing it.

    You should be really proud of your committment to study and work. I know it's not easy balancing everything, but I encourage you to keep going. Your education is so important to your future and with a bit of self care and maybe a few adjustments you can get through this phase. And it is just a phase, things can get better.

    Maybe to better manage stress you can look at changing jobs? The situation at work is less than ideal and you just might find something better. It's also important that you exercise, eat well and get adequate sleep. Be sure to spend time with good friends and do things you enjoy to balance out your life.

    I also think it might help to reach out to mum and see if you can work things out. Forget about who's right or wrong, let it go, and start fresh.

    I'm a mum with two 20-something adult children, so I know how arguments can arise. It's part of life. Don't let your Dad's poor behaviour skew your thinking. Most times family differences can be worked out. Give mum a chance because I'm guessing you will find she is troubled and upset, too.

    You sound like an amazing young person with a lot going for you: determination, a solid work ethic, common sense, intelligence and a good heart. Never lose faith in yourself.

    Kind thoughts to you

  3. Mousey22
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    4 April 2019 in reply to Summer Rose

    Hi Rose,

    Thanks a lot for your encouragement, its really refreshing to hear some positive encouragement for once. I got a few days off now so I'm going to do some things around home and tidy my personal space up and relax a bit, it really helps to get time off and just chill out to balance the emotions out for once.

    Thanks again :)

  4. Summer Rose
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    4 April 2019 in reply to Mousey22

    Hi Mousey22

    So nice to hear from you and you sound a lot more positive, too! Your welcome, my friend.

    Enjoy your time off. Reboot. And tomorrow is a new day and fresh start.

    Kind thoughts to you