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Topic: separation anxiety within relationships

2 posts, 0 answered
  1. StaticGhost
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    1 posts
    26 January 2019

    Hello, I am a 17-year-old girl who is currently in a relationship, I adore my boyfriend to bits and when I am with him I feel safe and happy. However, when I am away from him for even a day, I get depressed. Severely depressed. I feel like I can't do anything without feeling sad or wanting to hurt myself (mentally and physically). I am a very clingy person and tend to cling to those who I love, or at least want to be around. I suffer from depression and anxiety and take medication for it, but my mind is always thinking about him. It hurts me a lot when I am not with him and I have no idea why, why is he so important to me? I love how he is but at the same time, I can not cope when he is gone. I find I am even pushing friends and family away to be with him, and only him. I believe this is going way too far.

    Has anyone else gone through this and know how to cope or at least deal with it? I have always needed to be with someone and have dealt with bad separation anxiety my whole life but this is something far more difficult for me to overcome.

    Thank you.

  2. Doolhof
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    28 January 2019 in reply to StaticGhost

    Hi StaticGhost,

    Thanks for sharing your story with us. I am wondering how you feel towards your family? Do yo feel like they love and care for you? Do you remember feeling anxious with your family if they went out somewhere and left you home alone?

    Have you thought about talking to a Dr regarding how you feel, they may be able to recommend a few suggestions, check to see if you do have depression and anxiety and offer ways to get through it.

    You could Google "Separation Anxiety" and see if some ideas come up as to how you can feel more relaxed and calm when it comes to your relationship.

    It is wonderful to love someone as much as yo do with your boyfriend, I don't think it is that healthy tough if it affects yo so much when yo are not together.

    Hope you can find ways to be calm and enjoy your life too when yo are not with him.

    Cheers from Dools