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Topic: Moving Out

6 posts, 0 answered
  1. I don't even know
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    28 July 2019

    Hi All,

    I'm considering moving out as my family is a major trigger for my depression and anxiety. I'm still 17.

    Does anyone have any advice or random tips or anything like that on moving out? Even just sharing a personal experience on this topic could be helpful.

    Thanks!

  2. MsPurple
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    28 July 2019 in reply to I don't even know

    Hi I don't even know

    I moved out of my family home when I was 19. I did move for University and lived in university residence. So I have also moved in an out of my family home (not permanently moved back, but while between places). I found it a bit daunting moving to a new town for Uni, but I found it beneficial to help me become more independent as an adult

    I suggest considering contacting Centrelink. They may have some suggestions on how to do this. I am not sure if you are still a student. But I know Centrelink help with rent assistance

    I would also suggest maybe contacting headspace. It is a youth mental health service. They may have some advice regarding moving out of home underage.

    Is there anything in particular the worsens your depression that you'd like to discuss on here? If not that is completely ok :)

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  3. MrsBrooke
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    28 July 2019 in reply to I don't even know

    Hi

    I am suffering the effects of family issues at the moment which is contributing in a major way to my anxiety and depression at the moment. I am a grown woman with a husband and children and have not lived at home for many years.

    Issues with family don’t go away unfortunately when you leave home BUT it will give you more power when it comes to being around them and your time spent with them.

    I am at a stage now where I have been hurt massively by a family member and need to learn how to be around him without causing a divide between the rest of my family.

    I also feel hurt that the rest of my family have not backed and supported me more.. so by living in a different house is certainty a way that I can physically get away from them but the reasons for my depression and anxiety are still there until the issues have been resolved.

    So it is a hard one, but I think that getting your own place would help you begin recovery.

    Love and Luck xx

  4. I don't even know
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    28 July 2019 in reply to MsPurple

    Hi MsPurple,

    I've looked into Centrelink funding but there doesn't seem to be much support for people in my situation. Luckily I'm not in too much of a rush. I have a therapist who helping to try and figure things out.

    I'm not 100% on why they trigger me but I've realised recently that being near them brings a significant drop in my mood.

    Thank heaps!

  5. I don't even know
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    28 July 2019 in reply to MrsBrooke

    Hi there,

    Thanks so much for your insight. Sounds like you've had a really tough time with your family but I'm glad you've got your husband and kids now. It is a bit of a reality check that being in a different house doesn't mean they'll disappear from my life. I think the control over when/if and how long I see them will help a lot.

    Thank you!

  6. MsPurple
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    30 July 2019 in reply to I don't even know

    Hello again

    I know it can be hard when the mood goes down in certain situations. Especially situations you can't necessarily avoid.

    Have you considered having a family session with your therapist. When I was 16 I had a family session with my parents for my ED. It was helpful as it was a controlled environment. I could also discuss what I wanted to talk about o what I may not want to talk about infront of my parents. Maybe something to consider in the meant time.

    I know youth allowance may help (and they offer rent assistance, note it isn't much) but at the same time, I am not a social worker so I am not sure if this is suitable or not. Maybe you could see if getting a referal to a social worker maybe beneficial.