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Topic: Is my health at risk?

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  1. Mask is on
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    21 December 2018

    I’ve stayed up for the past week until I have passed out at times past 2am, I’m 15 btw. Well it’s not that bad I have stayed up passed 11pm this whole year.

    This is purposeful but knowing its not good for myself. Guess it has just triggered to be worse recently because I am a very lonely person and Nobody ever talks nor texts me.

    My daily rutine for the past 2 weeks has been stay up late, pass out, wake up, do chores, watch youtube, eat dinner and repeat.

    I have not had a proper breakfast for a long time, maybe on occasion. And as well rarely I will only have a drink and I will only have 2 sips of that and call it breakfast.

    I also rarely have breakfast.

    All I eat is dinner and sometimes at 1-4am I get up and have a snack.

    With this conbined with eating unhealthy I still manage about average weight in my opinion.

    52kilo about.

  2. white knight
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    21 December 2018 in reply to Mask is on

    Hi, welcome

    Our bodies are machines. Not putting fuel and oil in a car will result in mechanical failure.

    I'm not a medical pro, but I'd guess you could have a condition/disorder like depression or eating disorder. It is really important to seek out a doctors view.

    As for no contact from friends...get new friends. Sometimes we pick the wrong people for company.

    Thanks for posting.

    TonyWK

  3. White Rose
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    21 December 2018 in reply to Mask is on

    Hello Mask is on

    Welcome to the forum.

    Your post is certainly interesting, but is of concern. Is there any reason why you want to stay up so late? Are you trying to stay awake all night? Sleep deprivation is a serious matter and not eating much or snacking occasionally is also serious. Do you live with your family or anyone else? I am wondering why your family have not noticed your lack of appetite.

    Your weight may be OK but it depends on other factors such as height and build. Certainly as a teenager you are growing and changing faster than any other time of life and you need the energy you get from a good, even if basic, diet. Eating breakfast has been considered the most important meal of the day. After talking to my dietician I discovered the reason. Breakfast provides the kick start to your digestive system allowing the body to be ready for the day. I am sure you realise that to continue with your current diet you are also in danger of developing an eating disorder.

    I am sad you feel you have no friends. That is always unhappy. Do you know why you do not have friends? I am asking a lot of questions but it is to learn more about you and because I am concerned about your health. What do you mean by, stay up late, pass out. Do you simply fall asleep from exhaustion or for some other reason?

    Friendships are important to students as they can be a great support. It is the give and take of friendship that makes your life happy. This is what is missing from your life. At this stage I cannot make any suggestions about forming friendships other than to say why not join in group activities at your school. Perhaps you can continue to post here and we can talk more.

    Mary

  4. Mask is on
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    21 December 2018 in reply to white knight

    I have few friends, I am always there for them and are alway open to talk.

    I guess I am dedicated to making everyone around me happy and to make them think that I am a person they can always rely on.

    But it seems everyone has there own life and more important people to talk to.

    That is understandable but more than half of my friends haven’t messaged me in a year or more. On occasion I have talked to them at school but now that school is off gor the year, we have no contact.

  5. Mask is on
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    21 December 2018 in reply to White Rose

    No there is no real reason that I stay up so late, I just like listening to music, watching youtube and at the moment teaching myself some coding languages.

    I’m not trying to stay up, it just comes naturally, the only time I go to sleep is when I decide or when my body shuts down.

    (I do find it difficult to go to sleep.)

    My mum has said I need to eat, but she has now stopped because she is at work and not here to notice.

    I’m on holidays for 8 weeks and holidays is good but it makes me shut in and lonely.

    The only time I snack is at night when everyone is asleep because I have just got used to snaking then and my “body clock” for eating makes me hungry only then, same with other eating patterns.

    When I say I pass out it is because of my body goes into shutdown due to exhaustion and this can happen at any time I sit down or lay down in only certain places like my room. It’s like my body won’t let me sleep where I don’t want to.

    This pass week I have passed out at around times of 3am, 4am, 7:10am, 2pm and 5:30am.

    when I wake up, I am up around 11am - 3pm.

    As in terms for weight and build, I am a male who is around 172cm tall and is decently built and skinny around the stomach.

    Just to add onto the food topic, I don’t like bread haven’t had a bread at school for about a 2 years.

    At school I have 1 snack between breaks and sometimes I skip snacks.

    The give and take of friends as you say. Well I not to be up myself or saying I’m better in anyway, but I give money, time, food and lyalty and I rarely get anything back.

    There has been people that I do all this for and they just think I am just another person who doesn’t fit in.

    Oh yeah forgot to add I don’t fit in with anyone. Yeah I’m not a strange kid I feel like I am just mire mature then everyone and planned and so prepared for life that everyone else is messing around while I’m making back up plans.

    I have a group of friends that I have been friends with for about 9 years. 4/5 people in that group treat me like I’m just another friend that I haven’t been there all this time.

    The other friend is the only person I have ever met who has been to my house more than 2 times. There has only been about 6 different people over 8 years who have been to my house.

    The person who has been to my house more than 2 times still doesn’t message me over a week.

    I do the average kid stuff like streaks on snap chat, that is the only contact I have with anyone.

    Anyway thats about in terms of your question.

  6. Mask is on
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    21 December 2018 in reply to White Rose

    I don’t know if it matters or not but I would just like to add that I have a insucurity about music I listen to because it’s not the normal music teens listen to.
    morely about reality and depression. But the strange thing is that it accesses a part of my brain that makes my true feelings show.

    I am in a dilema in deciding If I’m sad or my thoughts are faking it and it is just so people pay attention to me. Or thats another mask to cover up if im sad. It is a infinite cycle that I can not figure out.

    You know... I read a thing yesterday saying 9 things that might relate to lonliness and it read. “You feel like your lonely in a room full of people”.

    It made my eyes water because I relized that seeing other people happy blinds your feelings.

    I realised that I’m not happy because nobody talks to me, everyone talks to all there friends and I’m here without anyone talking to me.
    Social media brings me depression because everyone seems like there life is so perfect.

    I don’t know if I am insane but sometimes I think if there was a devistating world wide apocolips where few people lived I would feel more helpful then I do now and I feel like If I came across people I would make more friends then, then my whole life.

    My number one fear is the relisation of reality of where this wourld is heading and how everyone will die.

  7. Psyched_for_life
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    22 December 2018 in reply to Mask is on

    Hey Mask is on! Thanks for posting :). I don't think your alone in how you are feeling- I can relate to that feeling of having friends but not really feeling connected, feeling like you give more than you get back. In relation to your original question about sleep- yes I do think that your current sleep pattern is not very good for your health. Although holidays can be great, they also mean that you have less structure and routine and may not be distracted from how you are feeling- it's a lot of thinking time!

    The fact that your posting about this suggests to me that maybe you recognise that your current routine might not be very good for you, and perhaps you are thinking about changing some things. I wonder if there are people in your life that could support you to get your sleeping and eating back on track? Is there anyone in your life that you can talk to about this stuff?

    You might find this info interesting: https://headspace.org.au/young-people/sleeping-well-for-a-healthy-headspace/

  8. Mask is on
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    24 December 2018 in reply to Psyched_for_life
    Thank you for you advice, but I have nobody to talk about this to apart from the few who reply on this site.
  9. White Rose
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    25 December 2018 in reply to Mask is on

    Hello Mask

    This is a brief reply because I am going to join my family for Christmas Day. I have read your posts to me, thanks very much. It seems that your world is quite complex and needs an answer that at least raises ideas for you to consider. I hope you are with your family today.

    You mentioned a couple of points that resonate with me and I will talk more fully later on. For now, play your music if it gives you comfort and helps you to relax, try eating with your family because food is not only eaten to fill your stomach. It is the fellowship you get and enjoy by sharing a meal even if you eat only a small portion.

    Masks have a lot to answer for but we all use them in some way. I will post here later.

    Mary