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Topic: i need a buddy

15 posts, 0 answered
  1. Proncess
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    22 January 2019

    i my names asha and im 14, for the past 3 years (which doesnt really look the long) i have had really bad depression cause by a bad family and a raging mother who takes all her problems out on me which has cause me to become self destructive and depressed almost all times of the day i feel like just not being alive would help ease the pain. i have had no one to talk to about my problems other then my pillow because i real like i would just be a burden to my friends who dont have any idea what im going through , lately it has gotten worse and i think its time i talk to someone about it who would understand and not just think its me being a edgy teen (i know the difference between being a teen and having depression) .

    sorry for the rouge introduction

    asha,x

  2. Calebark
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    22 January 2019 in reply to Proncess

    Hey there Asha,

    I can certainly understand how you feel -- I personally struggled (and still struggle) with depression for the majority of high school before I eventually started telling a friend or two here and there. I felt like it would be a burden to my friends to hear what's on my mind or the negative things that have been on my mind. After a few years, a friend actually commented that I haven't been seeming myself, and I started telling them things. They didn't judge me or blame it on just being an 'edgy teen' -- in fact it was quite the opposite, as though my hesitance to tell anybody proved it wasn't for attention. Perhaps your friends might feel the same way if you tried talking to them. You could even ask them if it'd be okay for you to talk about something serious and heavy, that way you know you're not burdening them.

    If that might be a bit difficult to do, there's plenty of places on the forums to talk about what's on your mind -- you're more than welcome to do so! We may be online, but we can still listen, and who knows, perhaps we can even help you talk to your friends about it.

    Aside from this, I should also note something pretty important: professional help. I can assure you that no psychologist worth their salt would judge you for what you're going through -- they're trained to listen and they're trained to help. If you feel up to this, you can get started on it by visiting your GP and asking about a mental health plan (this is free for up to 10 sessions!). If you need more information on this, I'd be happy to oblige or to send you some resources.

    Best of luck,

    --Calebark

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  3. Proncess
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    22 January 2019 in reply to Calebark

    to be honest i have tried talking to my friends about my problems but there response was silence and a "damn that sucks bro" there no help and kinda make it worse for me. about going to a professional its not a good solution for me personally. i live very far out of town and my mum doesn't believe i need help ( she doesn't know the impact she has on me mentally) i really dont want to go to anyone face to face it doesnt help my anxiety. online chats are better for me

    thanks for replying

  4. HaydenB
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    26 January 2019 in reply to Proncess

    Hey Asha,

    I've gone through a lot of similar problems as you have. Including needing someone to talk to! I would love to chat with you if you would like to! Hope to hear from you soon 😊

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  5. geoff
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    27 January 2019 in reply to Proncess

    Hello Asha, can I welcome you to the forums and to try and talk to your friends is always something you would really like to happen, but the topic may not be something that interests them so I'm pleased you have come here.

    Having a mother that treats you like you've said is certainly not going to benefit you at all, especially when she says that there is nothing wrong with you, and this is sad because she is only thinking of herself and not you.

    Depression of any type is different between you at your age to how you feel your mother feels, the comparison can be quite contrasting.

    I'd like to hear back from you and what you share with us stays with us, especially as we don't know who you are or what you look like.

    You must be struggling to cope with the situation you are now in, I'm sorry that this has happened.

    You could also talk to Kids online 1800 55 1800, Chat with us online (Available 8 am – 12 am, Reachout.com or HeadSpace on www.headspace.org.au/‎

    Take care and hope to hear back from you, and I won't mention going to see anybody, we have to try and help you get the strength first.

    Geoff.

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  6. Proncess
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    27 January 2019 in reply to HaydenB
    hi hayden would love to chat, im not sure how this site works other then forums honestly how we talk is up to you :)
  7. Proncess
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    27 January 2019 in reply to geoff
    thanks for replying, i always put off going to sites like these but i can tell this was a good idea there are alot of nice people here :)
  8. Saroseme
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    27 January 2019 in reply to Proncess

    Hi Asha,

    I’m sorry your Mum treats you wrong, treating someone with disrespect over your own problems is certainly not great behaviour, especially for a Mother, I get that feeling of not being able to talk to your friends about it, I’m sure that’s hard, but I’m sure they would care and be quite helpful if you ever needed to talk, I mean, that’s what good friends are for.

    I hope you feel better talking to people on the forums, they are really kind as far as I’ve seen, and I know there are people with experience with these sorta subjects.

    If you ever have an issue, or just want to talk to someone, let me know,

    - Sam

  9. Proncess
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    27 January 2019 in reply to HaydenB

    damn really sorry i dont have any credit, i dont have a plan on my phone its really annoying

    sorry :(

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  10. geoff
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    28 January 2019 in reply to Proncess

    Hi Proncess, I'm sorry but please don't respond to this phone number.

    NO PHONE NUMBERS are allowed on this site, it should have been stopped by the automatically generated system.

    PLEASE DON'T CALL

    This person maybe a very kind and caring person but the phone number could be to contact someone you don't know.

    Thanks.

    Geoff.

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  11. geoff
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    28 January 2019 in reply to geoff

    Sorry from someone who may not be the person wanting to help you, but wanting to contact you for other reasons outside of this site.

    If Hayden you are someone who has credibility then I'm very sorry.

    Geoff.

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  12. blondguy
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    28 January 2019 in reply to Proncess

    Hello Proncess

    Beyond Blue takes your privacy and well being very seriously. We do have mechanisms in place to prevent posts like the one from HaydenB and unfortunately this post did get through our system and for that I apologise

    This is a serious breach of the forum protocols

    I hope that this incident wont deter you from continuing to post with us Proncess. Your input is highly valued!

    The post above will be removed as soon as possible

    my sincere apologies

    Paul

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  13. HaydenB
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    28 January 2019 in reply to Proncess
    Sorry for posting that, im only new to this website dont mean to cause any trouble. 
  14. Sophie_M
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    28 January 2019 in reply to HaydenB
    Hi Proncess and HaydenB. Just popping in to confirm that we do not permit any form of contact outside of the forum between our members, which includes phone numbers or social media. This is ensure our members can remain anonymous, and to protect your privacy and safety. I apologise that our moderation software did not prevent the phone number from being published and we are looking into what went wrong on this occasion. You're most welcome to continue chatting here on the forums, and we hope you do! 
  15. geoff
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    29 January 2019 in reply to HaydenB

    Hi HaydenB, thanks for getting back to us.

    I hope you didn't mind my caution to Proncess as Sophie_M has said it was the moderation software that didn't pick it up.

    Hope to see you on the site.

    Geoff.