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Topic: I’m scared about everything

  1. Izzy Page 5
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    15 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    Thank you. I will do that it’s just scary the thought of it at such a young age I hope I’ll be ok and it works
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  2. Croix
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    15 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Dear Izzy~

    I've been reading your posts here and know you have a bunch of things that are worrying you. Taken all together they can seem impossible to overcome - overwhelming in fact.

    I have been like that and have found there is some relief on one thing at a time. (Like you I have anxiety and bouts of depression, had panic attacks but they are mostly gone now.)

    Leave schoolwork and attendance for a moment

    Leave being like others and living happily for now

    If you can get to a better mental place then dealing with all those things becomes easier.

    ATM I guess you main worry is medications, and that is sensible. People are different and react in different ways, plus there are lots of different sorts of meds. As a result it might not be quite straightforward, maybe a bit of trial and error. The main thing is to keep your doctor updated.

    Trying to deal with you anxiety without meds - going it alone, is probably not realistic. Like a diabetic saying I will persevere without insulin. I've been on meds for many years and it's true, it took a while to find the one that suited, and now it is good - as is life, my fears are right down. If I need it and take it and life is OK, then it does its job. There are worse thngs. The downside can be side effects, which is where changing meds to find the right one comes in.

    Mindfulness is fine, but if you are like me you have the concentration of a gnat. So I use a free Smartphone App called Smiling Mind. Even the 2-minute introduction exercise makes a difference. It takes practice, but when you have that it really works - amazing. I use it to lower background anxiety regularly, plus when things get bad.

    Doing that practice will take your mind off being stuck in your room.

    So what do you do to reward yourself each day? It is important. I look forward to reading a book, watching a movie, exercise with a pet, and other things- what do you think might suit you? It does not need a reason, it is simply good for you.

    Billyc is right, you do need and deserve pats on the back

    Croix

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  3. smallwolf
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    15 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5
    Hi Izzy,

    Read you are a concerned about medication. I started on medication last year after things took a turn for the worse for me. While it has taken me a while to get the right dosage etc. it was the right decision. The one thing that made it easier was that my psychiatrist would always ask me how the medication was working. And based on my response would work out the next step. The other thing to remember is that side effects are possibilities, not guarantees. So while it might seem daunting, it will all be ok.

    Tim
  4. Billyc
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    16 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Hi Izzy,

    I thought I’d drop a line to see how you are getting on?

    I Hope your well,

    best

  5. Izzy Page 5
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    17 May 2019 in reply to Croix
    Thank you for your reply that’s what I’m scared side affects as health anxiety is one of my biggest fears
  6. Izzy Page 5
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    17 May 2019 in reply to smallwolf
    It is scary and I hope I do ok and that I have no side affects I’m on day 3 of taking it now and I’m not experiencing anything I’m just scared
  7. Croix
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    18 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Dear Izzy~

    It is natural to feel scared but it may help to remember you are in control. As problems come up you work to fix them, using the expertise of others, and if something does not work, or had too big a down side you seek advice and then you decide what to do.

    3 days can be a hopeful sign. Please keep on trying, you will get there - as I have. My meds are not perfect, but they are pretty good, well worth having. Things can work out.

    Please don't forget about rewarding yourself - you deserve it, plus it is good for you.What could you enjoy (anything from a chocolate Freddo to a movie or ... ?

    My cat, Sumo Cat, is beside me and enjoying a scratch under his chin. I look forward to him hoping up on his special blanket and keeping me company as I type.

    Croix

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  8. Izzy Page 5
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    21 May 2019 in reply to Croix
    Thank you for your response I havnt really had any side affects besides sleeping I’m just terrified ugh!!
  9. Billyc
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    21 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Hi Izzy,

    are you still attending school?

  10. Izzy Page 5
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    I havnt been at school for the past few weeks since March
  11. Billyc
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    There was a time

    when my parents were fighting

    myself, my brother and my sister were put into temporary care..

    we were put into home schooling, I played up a bit,

    is that an option for you? Nothing wrong with home schooling, or do you want to break that threshold of worrying about returning to school?

    best

  12. Izzy Page 5
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    I really want to be home schooled but my parents don’t agree ugh!!
  13. Billyc
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    They are likely of the same view as me.

    they believe in in you, and it’s likely they want you to step out the front door with courage.

    can I ask? Whats holding you back?

    the reason I ask is this,

    i am currently well positioned in my brothers living room, I am a tertiarry educated architect with some good projects under my belt.. so I have done some good in this world, but I am scared to hell about leaving his living room, let alone the front door.

    why are you so scared to leave you home? No pressure in answering.. just know your not alone, sometimes the least bit of courage makes you bigger than life itself..

    does that make sense?

  14. Izzy Page 5
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    Yea ummm im just scared really of social situations and germs and I hate leaving the house I’m just scared
  15. Billyc
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Hi Izzy,

    i hear you,

    and im with you,

    do you like cooking?

  16. Billyc
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    22 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    What I mean is, your going to be scared for the rest of your life.

    ive got your back, so does everybody here in this forum, so do your parents, so will you friends when they find out you are someone with courage, your a beautiful person, use that for your personal gain, because you deserve it,

  17. Izzy Page 5
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    23 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    Thank you I do like cooking but not touching the packageing on the outside and I don’t know how to convince my parents to let me be online schooled
  18. Billyc
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    23 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Hi Izzy,

    I’m guessing your parents are trying to challenge you a little, and I am only guessing, I don’t know them so I’m only guessing, there maybe other reasons.

    I take my two daughters on caravan weekends and we’ve been learning to surf.

    I bought them there wetsuits and a foam board, to start learning.

    we got in the surf and I forgot that I went through a process of learning waves, currents, tides and all the rest of the “deadlies” that a picture on the wall doesn’t show.

    so I had a real problem, I had two young people not prepared for these dangers both with me out in the ocean.. I was super scared,

    they were young and excited and thought waves were like the ripples in a pond, something you could play with.

    Clearly not the case! So I brought them back in to the shallows, and I let them play with the samplers waves, and get a feel for what a wave does, moves and ends, I learnt that they needed to start at the beginning, which I think I am doing as well, staring at the beginning and learning to ride the waves.

    its a true story,

    they now hate the beach, the sand and being tossed around in the surf like a washing machine, but when I get them out there they engage with it all, and it’s beautiful to see,

  19. Izzy Page 5
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    24 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    Yea story good but I don’t know why my parents won’t let me ugh it frustrates me so fkn much
  20. Billyc
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    24 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Hi Izzy,

    Yes it is a good story, Yiur parents are a good story, and you are a good story,

    best

  21. Izzy Page 5
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    24 May 2019 in reply to Billyc
    I want to convince them but I can’t get across to them.
  22. Billyc
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    24 May 2019 in reply to Izzy Page 5

    Hi Izzy,

    maybe you could consider a “trial” of online schooling, I don’t know what it would cost but maybe use the summer break to trial it? It’s just a thought, to see how it goes?

    are their evenings at home that you might suggest to your parents to try an online subject? If that goes well they may see some benefits to it.

    stay brave