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Topic: I'm lonely and sad. here's my story lol

2 posts, 0 answered
  1. donnie123
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    2 posts
    8 July 2019
    do I belong here? I see everyone always fits in somewhere and I see lots of people always in like online groups of friends. so I came to say hi. I'm seeking just nice people. here's the story I turn up to school sit there with my mates while they ignore me, call me shit at footy for no reason other then for a laugh? Umm call me a pedophile because I dated a girl who was 15 and I'm 16. and every time I walk past someone now they all call me a pedophile..it really gets to me. I posted up on instagram an "ask a question" and a couple replies were "do us a favour and kys". now I don't even know these people and somehow they are out here saying shit like that to me?. and my friends are no help. they all saw it and laughed and they planned a trip to Melbourne with me sitting right there, they hang out and do stuff and I'm not invited. they all talk to people on snapchat and I try to message for a general conversation and they just leave it on read. I get called derogatory comments at school because apparently I "talk to too many girls" well I actually only talk to the one girl on snapchat. I was forced to get rid of every female I have so people would stop saying shit about me. it didn't work. every laughs at me and they all talk shit behind my back. my friends give me shit about how I wasnt good enough that's why my ex cheated. life's shit. what do people gain from being like this. now I know it looks desperate. but maybe can someone just.. you know be nice. and just talk...is this normal to happen? is anyone else hated? IDK anymore.. can't wait for my P's though..
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  2. JaneVV
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    8 July 2019 in reply to donnie123

    Hey Donnie123,

    Thanks for replying to my post! It makes me feel better knowing that I’m not alone. I’m 19 btw.

    I completely understand how you feel when it comes to loneliness and while I probably don’t have the best advice, I’d like to try and help you.I honestly think that people who constantly put you down and don’t invite you to places in front of your face, do not deserve your time or energy. The sooner you get rid of those toxic people, the better. I know it can be hard to let go of people especially when you’ve been friends for such a long time but in the long run, you will feel much better.

    Making new friends is something I’m also struggling with but like you said, just try to be yourself and don’t change for anyone - if people don’t accept your true self, then that’s their loss. I think there’s heaps of friendly people on these online forums so you have come to the right place. I know you said that you play footy so maybe you could have a look at joining an Oztag team and playing for fun? It’s a good way to make friends and meet new people. Or you could look at joining Facebook groups for specific interests/ hobbies - from there you can go to events and meet people who share similar interests to you.

    In response to people calling you derogatory names, you should try not to worry about them because you know deep down that the things they are saying are not true. Ignoring them can be hard but it’s the best way to stop them because they have no power over you. Also, when I was younger I had ask.fm which is similar to the insta thing. Getting rid of it was the best thing I done because no one could write horrible things to me anymore. People are nasty so the best thing you can do is take away their power by not posting those ‘ask me something’ things.

    If things are getting to you, it’s probably a good idea to seek help from a medical professional. There’s heaps of support available. Please don’t forget - you are not alone.

    Hope this helps,

    JaneVV

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