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Topic: I'm in a relationship and I have developed strong feelings for someone else

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  1. louieramseyyy
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    21 May 2019
    I'm 17 and I have been in a relationship with my loving boyfriend for around 6 months now. I have been living with him for 3 months now due to family violence. My relationship has been really good up until this point. About a month ago, we started to argue a lot more, get irritated at each other a lot easier so it was harder for us. I have started to grow feelings for a close friend of mine who I met at the start of the year and I have never felt this way about anyone, not even my own boyfriend! I am really unsure of what to do. I am about to move out of his place as I have found somewhere for me to stay on my own, so the option to not be with him anymore is still there, just incase he reacts negatively if I tel, him. I don't know if I love him, please help?
  2. quirkywords
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    22 May 2019 in reply to louieramseyyy


    Welcome to the forum. This is a supportive place full of kind people.

    Thanks for writing your post and sharing your story with us.

    I am pleased you have been in a loving relationship with your boyfriend and that he has given you a safe place to live. Couples may find that after a while they start to argue and get irritated by each other. This does not mean there is something in the relationship but maybe you need to talk honestly to each other and say how you feel. You wrote that you have a living relationship and people can argue with each other and respect them and love them. Little things can offer irritate someone especially when you see a lot of each other.

    Sometimes it is possible to develop strong feelings for another especially if you feel you are not getting on with your boyfriend.

    How would you feel about this other person, if your relationship with your boyfriend improves?

    What makes you think you may not love your boyfriend?

    I can see you are confused about your emotions . Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.