Hi spontaneous sunflower
I understand where you're coming from. It can be tough when we're a little shy and perhaps unsure of the reception we will get from others.
For me, I find that being a good listener and observer helps when it comes to forming relationships with people. Seeing relationships pretty much come down to how we relate to each other, I'll try to pick up on key pieces of info people mention or certain behaviours and run with it (based on being able to relate). I'll give you a couple of examples:
- If someone was to mention that they've just started going to the gym or they've taken up some form of exercise, I may mention how I'd love to find the motivation to do that. I may ask them what motivates them and if they have any tips. I might also ask how much it has changed their outlook, whether they exercise with other people or if it's something they enjoy doing on their own and so on
- If someone mentions a political or social issue, I may ask them how they feel about it, why they're so passionate about it, why they believe what they do in regard to it etc
For yourself, you might pick up on someone's unique ability to draw impressive little picture in their exercise book in class or the fact they just got a new body piercing. These can be conversation starters. Maybe they'll mention how much they don't want to be doing math, which is an opening to ask them what their favourite subject is or what they'd like to be doing in life. Perhaps they simply look more tired than usual, which can lead you to ask ' You feeling okay? You look a little tired today'. This indicates to them that you care and are interested in them.
At the end of the day, most folk like to be considered and if we show (in one way or another) that we're considerate people, other thoughtful people will relate to us. By coming to understand a lot of tiny bits of information about others, before we know it, we are forming relationships with people we once knew nothing about.
I hope this helps :)