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Topic: help

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. neh4
    neh4 avatar
    2 posts
    8 March 2020
    It's been too long and I think I need to share my thoughts. I've gone to a councilor couple times before but it didn't feel right. I guess I'll give this a shot.

    I always feel empty, some days more than others but I always have it in me, like something's missing. My mom noticed that something might be wrong but I'd just get mad at her and reassure that I'm alright, I dont know why I'd react like that... Sometimes days would pass without me even noticing because all I've done is lie on my bed. Sometimes I don't even have any reasons to feel like that but I can't help it. I've disappointed so many people with my behavior... I've lost friends and I've lost opportunities.

    Once my host mom (I'm an exchange student) got so mad at me for spending too much time in my room and when she told me this I was surprised because I didn't even notice it.
    I didn't realize that the time had gone by so quickly. I also got into an argument with my other host family and they told me the same thing. I don't get it.


    And when I'm feeling like this, it'd last for atleast three days, sometimes way longer but I think it depends on the "trigger". Once I got into a huge fight with my then best friend and it got me so messed up. I would cry myself to sleep every night and on days I literally looked like half dead. I'd spend my time self-loathing and sleeping. It's been over 3 months and I'm still not fully over it. After that fight all I've done is compare myself to the girl and I feel like it's making me crazy. She's skinny and beautiful and I'm the opposite. I exercise nearöy every day and I feel like I'm not losing any weight. I did try some unhealthy methods as well but I feel like my body is against it. Everything the girl does makes me compare myself to her. We're in the same situation; exchange students, same school, same city and we used to be in the same friend group as well but after the fight I couldn't be with them because it made me feel awful. She has done some other stuff that makes me wonder if she's trying to prove me that she's better than me but maybe she doesn't do it on purpose. It's not like she'd have to prove that anyways.

    Honestly though, I have no idea what I'm doing here. I can't even put my feelings to words and this whole thing is going to sound like I'm a crazy jealous angsty teenager.. I don't know maybe I just feel lonely.
  2. continuousventer
    continuousventer avatar
    36 posts
    9 March 2020 in reply to neh4
    hello neh4, I used to feel like something was missing in me. I didn't know what it was until I found a community that loved me.

    It's okay to have down days, we're not expected to feel our best all the time. Have you thought about seeing the GP for your mental health? I have depression, it's hard for me to get up in the morning. I guess you wish other people were more understanding about you staying in your room.
    Maybe they don't want you missing out on life. Going out and spending time with other people is a great thing!

    You need to stop comparing yourself to this other girl. Surely, you have good qualities about yourself. I know what it's like to feel not good enough. But when you look in the mirror next time, say something nice about yourself and keep doing that. Maybe you could make amends with this girl, just because you've had one fight doesn't mean it's the end of the friendship.

    It's okay, being a teenager is hard and it's difficult to be alone and think that people don't like you.
    But it's a human experience.

    Hope this helps!
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  3. neh4
    neh4 avatar
    2 posts
    12 March 2020 in reply to continuousventer
    Thank you so much for answering to me, it means alot. If I find the courage I'll go and see the GP... Thank you again.
  4. continuousventer
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    36 posts
    16 March 2020 in reply to neh4
    you're welcome, I know what it feels like to have no one answer

    it's hard to tell a gp that you're not coping so well, I know for me, I feel like I'll get judged because I'm not a picture of health. I really hope that my answer did not make you feel uncomfortable, in fact you were very relatable

    like I've lost friends and thought it was the end of the friendship if I ever I did something wrong, but you might get a second chance. and it's really ok to not like yourself, I don't like myself completely but I'm liking myself more these days

    hope this helps!