It sounds like you feel really let down by some important
people in your life… I’m sorry that you feel as though you’re losing hope and
that they’ve made you question whether there’s any good people in this world. I’m
glad that you decided to post on the forums because there are people out there
that want to listen and want to help. I think a lot of people can relate to
thinking (or being told) that they should be “living the best years of their
life” at 23, but everyone’s lives are different, and we can’t always make that
assumption or generalisation.
I went through a similar experience of distancing myself
from friends that I felt no longer contributed in a positive way to my life,
and it can definitely make you feel more isolated… I think it’s normal to grow
apart from some people in your life as you get older. It might be that you have
different goals and values or enjoy doing different things - and I think that’s
okay. That’s not to say it doesn’t hurt – losing a best friend is definitely painful,
regardless of whether the friendship was positive or not. Do you mind me asking
what kinds of things you value in a friendship? What is your relationship like
with people at work?
It sounded like you were really vulnerable with your ex-boyfriend
and opened up to him and I’m sorry that he broke your trust. His actions are a reflection of his character, not yours.
It sounds like you have a big heart with a lot to offer. It might not seem like
it now, but I believe experiences like these helps us grow in the long run. It
sounds like you’re really aware of what you DO want in a friendship and a
relationship based on these experiences and I think that’s such a positive thing.
Sending lots of hope your way!