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Topic: feelings towards others

7 posts, 0 answered
  1. Mads_
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    4 posts
    13 August 2019

    Hi all,

    Lately I've just been getting very easily irritated by others, to the point where I cat stand to be around people anymore.

    This is extremely frustrating, as I am still in school and spent my entire day with other people.

    I've never had this before. all of a sudden I just had this overwhelming feeling of utter annoyance and the complete desire to just isolate myself.

    If anyone had any advice on what this is, it would be greatly greatly appreciated.

    Thanks.

  2. AngelBear
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    14 August 2019 in reply to Mads_

    Dear Mads,

    I've had the same problem, I'm currently in school as well. It could be all the stress from the school work and homework so I would recommend, maybe sit alone for a while or try to relax and relieve the stress, for me music helps; if you would like to try that!

    Or if you have any pain from the past, that could be the cause of your issue. Or it could be jealousy? maybe your jealous of what someone else has achieved, You end up getting angry at the person for having something you want when really you need to turn it around and start thinking "That's something I'd like to have in my life too. How do I start to work towards getting that for myself?"

    Sorry if this wasn't helpful, but it could be it

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  3. Swan.13
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    14 August 2019 in reply to Mads_

    Hi Mads,

    Thanks for sharing... I can imagine that it would be pretty frustrating. We can't control the people around us especially when we're at school so it's hard to just completely detach yourself from the situation.

    Are there specific situations where you find yourself getting particularly annoyed, for example, when it's extremely noisy or in a particular subject? Do you feel the same way when you go home?

    This is a safe space where you can start to think about what might be causing you to feel this way...

    Hope to hear back from you :)

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  4. Mads_
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    14 August 2019 in reply to AngelBear

    Hi AngelBear,

    Thanks so much for your response, it really means a lot.

    School has been pretty tough lately, and homework has been really overwhelming. I never though that could be a factor, but you saying this has made me realise that it very well might be.

    I also have the tendency to get jealous easily too, something I'm really trying to work on. most of my friends are really smart and hardworking people, who seem to be good at everything (unlike me!!), and I think im starting to feel like I don't fit in with them anymore because of this.

    Thanks so much for the reply, you've really helped me a lot.

    im going to try and just sit with a different group of people or maybe go to the library for a day or two and see if anything improves.

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  5. Mads_
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    14 August 2019 in reply to Swan.13

    Hi Swan.13,

    thanks for the message and the help.

    I don't feel myself get this way in a particular situation or with particular people, just all the time generally.

    usually when I get home and am able to sit on my own and relax for a bit, it subsides.

  6. AngelBear
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    16 August 2019 in reply to Mads_

    Mads

    No problem! sorry for the late reply, it wouldn't let me respond yesterday. Im glad it helped and I think that's a great idea to sit with new people maybe they go through the same thing, yea homework is frustrating at some points (I hate it XD) I hope you have a stress free day today!

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  7. J...
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    6 posts
    29 August 2019 in reply to Mads_

    Hey Mads.

    I understand. It can get hard sometimes you can get sick of people. the important thing is to know your limit and look out for warning signs. when you see your self reaching your limit take a break. take a walk or something just recharge. I sometimes just go to the bathroom cause it's a good excuse to nick off for a bit. sometimes even being with a smaller group of people helps.

    hope this helped. have a good day!