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Topic: feeling helpless, lost and stressed

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  1. Samira
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    1 posts
    20 November 2018

    Hi all,

    This is my first time posting on here but this year was my last year of high school. I did VCE so the stress of getting a good ATAR and getting into my dream uni was already a lot to deal with. Around the time year 12 students start applying for universities, I got informed that my visa is being processed. Upon learning about this, I learnt that I was considered an International student because I don't have an Australian residency or citizenship and because I was born in America. All of this made me more stressed because international student university tuition fees are so expensive and because I was on a bridging visa that didn't allow me work rights, I felt so unmotivated and was in a lot of distress. So I applied at a university in America since I'm a citizen there and I also have family there so I could stay with them if I was gonna study there. I was pretty happy about it because my aunty in America told me that if I applied for financial aid, the tuition fees will be almost free so I had the burden of paying for uni fees off of my shoulders. I recently found out that in America they start university at the end of 2019 and I've always wanted to start uni straight away. I can't apply for any uni or even tafe here because of the expensive fees. The American university also told me I have to do the SATs or the ACT which is like their university entrance exam. I got this news after I just finished my end of year exams that I've been preparing for all year and I had to do another one!. The only thing I can do for now is do the SAT or ACT and find employment until the end of next year. I have never been this stressed out before, I've been getting constant headaches and neglecting my health. I don't know what to do. I'm 18 with no work experience as I just got work rights this year. I feel so unhappy. I really didn't expect things to turn out this way. I feel so alone because no one really understands how this is affecting me. I have no control over this and I feel so helpless. I already feel like I'm behind in life, I don't have my learners, no work experience and starting university late. While my friends receive their ATAR and get accepted into a university course, I will be working a part time job, sitting an exam for a uni that I don't even know if I'll get into and thats across the world and studying for my Ls. I really feel lost and helpless right now and I've never been this stressed in my life.

  2. IsaJett
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    21 November 2018 in reply to Samira

    Hi Samira

    it sounds like everything is pretty much up in the air at the moment for you and the unknown can be oh so daunting ..especially when you are 18 . One piece of advice I have for you is that you must have always faith in yourself that you will deal with the situation the best way you know how given the uncontrollable factors . Know that you will always find a way to tunnel through somehow. And that things will also work out in the end . You must always remember to play ...yes ..no spelling error there ..I did say play . Have fun with whatever life chucks at you . It’s all about the play .

    remember these quotes ..they have helped me through my atrocities and I am happy to have come out on top .

    1)Please grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change ..courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference

    2) you always get the choice to choose your reactions ...always

    good luck with it all