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Topic: Family Conflict

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. __Red__
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    1 posts
    23 July 2020
    I didn't know where to post this so I think I should put it here.
    My mum is scaring me. She yells at me all the time and I can't deal with it. She says she's trying to help but only makes it worse. I can't tolerate being in this house anymore yet I'm too scared to go anywhere else. I really need help.
    She just makes me so sad all the time and freaks me out. And then my dad and sister are both fed up with me and my problems. I don't want to be here and they don't want me to either. Though I can't go anywhere else.
    If anyone has any advice, that would help a lot.
  2. Sophie_M
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    23 July 2020 in reply to __Red__
    Dear __Red__,

    Thank you so much for taking such a brave and proactive step in sharing this with us today. We know it isn't easy but it is so important that you have. We want you to know you've come to a safe and non-judgmental place where users give and receive support based on their own mental health journeys, many of which will have similarities with yours.

    We're sorry to hear how much you're struggling with living at home at the moment. We on the forums are here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need. However, you might find it helpful to talk with a qualified mental health professsional. You can do that by calling our support service,  available 24/7, on 1300 22 4636 or you might like to reach out to our friends at Kids Helpline if you're 25 or under on 1800 55 1800 or via their 24/7 webchat service: https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

    Please keep checking in with us here and letting us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.
     
       
  3. monkey_magic
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    3086 posts
    23 July 2020 in reply to __Red__
    Hi Red,

    Sorry to hear that life in the home is difficult and scary for you. My mum used to yell at me all the time so I know how that feels and it isn't helpful.

    Do you feel comfortable opening up about your problems here? Many of us are willing to listen and support you through this time.

    It sounds like there's a lot going on at home with a lack of communication being a big factor. When everyone is calm are you able to tell them how they are making you feel?

    It doesn't sound fair that you are going through this.

    You are not alone and we are here for you, anytime.

    💜
  4. pinwheel23
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    • Masters of Psychology student on placement
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    35 posts
    23 July 2020 in reply to __Red__

    Hi Red,

    It sounds like things are really tough right now. Thank you for reaching out here and taking the step to ask for some help. It must be really hard feeling like you're unwanted by your family - you don't deserve to be treated or be made to feel feel this way.

    I don't have much to add, other than backing monkey_magic in saying that everyone on these forums are here for you. If you are comfortable sharing more about what's going on we're here to listen.

    take care,
    pinwheel23

  5. Billiek
    blueVoices member
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
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    5 posts
    24 July 2020

    Hi Red,

    I'm sorry that your family is bringing stress and sadness to you right now. No one should feel unsafe or uncomfortable in their own home. I hope this isn't impacting your confidence or sanity too much because I'm sure you are a great person, despite what they might be telling you :)

    I know you mentioned you have no where else to live, but do you have any friends or additional family you could spend more time with? Getting out of the house and spending the day with others might be a good distraction and might bring you some comfort in these hard times. You could also try join some groups or classes (even virtual ones due to the pandemic) which might help reduce feelings of loneliness that you could be feeling because of a tough home-life.

    I also agree with monkey_magic that maybe you could try having a calm conversation with them about how they are making you feel. I've heard that you could address tough conversations like this using I-vs-You language which might help them understand if they are stubborn. For example, your message might come across better if you say ''I am feeling upset about how I am being treated'', instead of ''you are making me upset''.

    Just know that everyone in the forum is here for you and that you are not alone in this! Feel free to update us on this situation or if you need some more support :)

    Billiek