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Topic: dropping out of high school- what do i do now

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  1. spontaneous sunflower
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    12 posts
    30 January 2020

    I am 17 and this year is supposed to be my final year of high school (year 12). I mentioned in another post that due to anxiety and depression that resulted in me not passing a couple of my classes, instead of graduating this year I would be graduating in 2021. Basically spreading out year 12 over two years. I was hesitant to make this decision at first, because of what people might think (don't care about that anymore) but more so, I wasn't sure it would make much of a difference to my mental health. But I decided it would put less stress and pressure on me, and that was that. So I thought..

    I didn't attend headstart classes at the end of last year. I don't even know what subjects I'm doing and I'll probably wind up with subjects I don't really like because I missed out. I've been pretty happy these summer holidays, going to the beach, hanging out with friends/family, etc. Majority of the days/moments where I felt anxious, depressed or upset were when I was reminded of the approaching school year. On Jan 1st, I quite literally broke down in tears telling my mum I couldn't go to school anymore. I can't do it anymore. For 5 years I've been struggling, I've seen multiple professionals, been put on medication, created plans with teachers, moved schools... and I still can barely get through a school year. And I'm smart, I get good grades, I enjoy learning. But I don't like school. I can't stand it.

    I guess I want to drop out. I literally don't know how to finish high school. Doesn't matter if I could graduate this year, or next year, I can't do it. I am so exhausted of feeling like shit all the time. The problem is if I drop out I'm not entirely sure what to do. Like I could go do a course at tafe, but I wouldn't know which one to do and where it would take me. Like could I somehow go to tafe now and then go to uni later? If it helps to know, I was interested in doing a media and communications course at uni. My interests are travelling, writing and photography.

    If anyone knows what my options are if I leave high school, please let me know. I don't want to end up working at maccas or whatever for the rest of my life, I want to accomplish great things. But i swear if I went back to high school, I would burn myself out in no time. I'm already holding on by a thread. I don't think I could handle another year of struggling with school. I don't think I've properly enjoyed my life in 3 years and I can honestly say it's because of school. I just want to live my life

  2. Yimchi
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    1 posts
    31 January 2020 in reply to spontaneous sunflower
    Hi Spontaneus Sunflower,
    I read through your post and have discovered I'm in exactly the same position as you and feel the exact same way as you. Last year I didn't attend a single class throughout semester 2 due to depression and anxiety and received an N for my unit 2 subjects. I went back for headstart but then during the holidays thought otherwise of going back. It's nice to know I'm at least not alone with this feeling.
  3. Deckt
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    3 posts
    31 January 2020 in reply to spontaneous sunflower
    I think that one of the biggest disservices that society spreads is that if you don't finish high school, don't go to uni that it will affect the rest of your life. It's simply not true.

    I didn't have a great time in high school either. I had no idea what I wanted out of life, and unfortunately, didn't have much guidance.

    You need to take care of your mental health. That is way more important than a year 12 certificate. You can go back after a break. You can go to TAFE, or look into other study programs. You could start an apprenticeship. You can go to uni later in life. You can get a job. There are many, many options available. The important thing to remember is that every day is a new opportunity to try something different. You are young, which means you have plenty of time to figure out what you want out of life, and how to get it. I'm showing my age a bit with this song, but give it a listen. Particularly the part about advice. :)
  4. Deckt
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    31 January 2020 in reply to Deckt
    Ok, didn't realise that we can't post links.

    The song is called Everybodys Free (to wear sunscreen). It's on YouTube.
  5. Zephyrus
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    4 posts
    1 February 2020 in reply to spontaneous sunflower

    Hi Sunflower,

    I went through the exact same thing. I was halfway through year 10 and hating even just the thought of going to school. I stopping going altogether shortly after I had confessed this to my Mum. I had a long period of randomness until I found my way through to my passion which is now what I do day in, day out.

    There is always a path to what you want, especially if you want it bad enough, you'll find the way. It might not be the way society dictates you go about things and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with doing things a different way, the way that's right for you. That takes care of you is every way, shape or form. I spent some time to figure out what I truly wanted to do, everything else didn't matter. I luckily found it and worked my way there. I spent two years in TAFE leading up to my Uni degree which I am due to finish in May of this year. I am so glad I did things the way I did because it was right for me.

    Do things how you need to, the way you feel is right.

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