hello Xerxes, and yes we have had people with the same problem, and MP and Croix have both made some great comments.
I have been an atheist for a long time, because everytime I prayed when I really needed an indication of what to do, of course nothing happened, and sorry to those who are religious, no intent to hurt you, so please bare with me, that's why I have no belief at all.
What does worry me is that some religious people do emotionally abuse the ones they love, I could never understand why they would go to church and then change significantly when they come home.
As kids my twin and I used to lie to my Mum if we knew we were going to get into trouble, maybe Mum knew ut we always safe, we never got belted up for doing anything wrong, but as we begin to grow up we develop a conscious and feel guilty for telling someone that you have done the impossible, who's going to believe us anyway.
You tell a lie but then you have to tell another lie to try and keep up with the previous lie, until eventually you get so confused with what you have originally said, so people know this, and when you're not with these people,I could only imagine what they say behind your back, 'he only b****ts'.
It's not that hard to teach yourself out of lying, watch something on telly and talk to yourself and maybe a friend or your finance about what actually happened, tell them you're having sessions with a psychologist and this is for practice.
If you want to get married and you can't overcome this lying then your marriage won't last, and please trust me when I say this, spouses hate being told lies, especially when you're first married.
It only takes practice after practice, stop when you begin to tell them any lie, it only takes dedication and strength. Geoff.