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Topic: Completely new life?

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  1. Guest_294
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    31 December 2018

    Hi all,

    so I have in the space of a couple days, submitted an application to transfer universities to ANU in Canberra from Macquarie University in Sydney. I’ve been advised that I am almost guaranteed an offer with my grades and GPA so I’m now thinking about logistics and the reality of moving away within the next few weeks...

    how do you deal with such significant change? I have my whole family here, all my friends and my boyfriend. None of whom (except my family) know that I’m moving. I’m waiting until I actually receive and accept the offer to tell anyone.

    I keep thinking about what it’ll be like not coming home and dancing around with my sisters or watching the footy with my brothers. Not having my friends a 10 minute drive away or seeing the same people I do every day. Not being able to turn around and steal kisses from my boyfriend who is such a significant part of my life.

    I couldn’t do long distance I don’t think - I’d try, definitely, but I’m a very physically affectionate person. I like cuddling with him and kissing him and just being together. Talking on the phone just isn’t the same...

    theres just so much that would change if I moved. It would be a great move! This is an incredible opportunity I don’t want to turn down and I know i will have an amazing experience living in Canberra and studying at ANU but it’s just all happened really fast and is a lot to take in.

    I don’t know...any advice for when you lose everything you know like that? 😅 I know I won’t lose it all - they’re only a few hours away on the train but it’s going to be so different.

    Thanks as always,

    A

  2. Doolhof
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    31 December 2018 in reply to Guest_294

    Hi Guest_294,

    It might help you to write a pros and cons list, work out what will be beneficial and what might be difficult, then write down ideas for how you will be able to cope with the changes.

    Is there any chance your boyfriend can move/transfer to Canberra as well?

    How do your family feel? Have you discussed the situation with them openly and extensively?

    We moved a couple of hours away from family and friends and that has been an interesting situation. Some people tell us we live too far away now and don't visit, yet it is okay for me to still visit them!

    It sounds like you are a friendly kind of person, so making new friends might not be that difficult for you.

    Sounds like you really want to go! Sometimes we just have to accept our choices and make them work!

    Cheers to you from Dools.

  3. white knight
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    31 December 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Guest, welcome

    Well as it happens, a long time ago 1973, 4 days after my 17th birthday, I left Melbourne for Adelaide to join the RAAF. Imagine the changes? I'd had a short haircut the day before only to be told to get another then another. Then jetted off to Adelaide for recruit training, running, running, marching, running. New faces, yelled at, you name it.

    But alas, over some weeks you settle in. I've no doubt you will in Canberra. Some of the things you list that you'll miss are, really, not priority are they? I mean this is your future, your career and so on. New friends....you will make them.

    My then 16yo daughter was distraught when we told her we are moving towns. But she did make even better friends and now a 29yo teacher.

    Cant say much more but that list Dools suggested might be worth a try.

    TonyWK