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Topic: Bulimic,Bi & all alone

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  1. Thebluepineapple
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    27 November 2019
    Trying to adjust to a new school in senior year, been there for a week and i have found no like minded people. Suggestions?
  2. Ceras
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Thebluepineapple

    I was in a similarish situation in highschool - I enrolled in a new school at the start of year 11. All I can say is that you likely will find some people you can talk to - it took me quite a while to adjust as well. Participating in activities/events run during or after school might help you, or otherwise approaching someone to work with/help you on something for a class (or event, or really anything you think might be good). Don't feel bad if you don't really click with someone after chatting with them a bit. It's a pretty random process before you find people you can actually connect to. I've been in uni for two years and while I had friends, I didn't really get a 'group' til the latter half of this year. This mightn't apply to you but a lot of subjects will have students working on things outside of class time (during lunch, after school etc) - especially when they have projects for things like art or industrial art. This holds true for a lot of subjects, but in different ways. It's something which depends on the school environment itself. It's a bit hard to give you more helpful advice and I wish I could, but at the end of the day it's just about finding where those people are to be found, which usually means looking into places/things you'd want to be involved in. Or - the good ol' desk partner technique. If you can get along with them, maybe ask if they'd mind you sitting with them/introducing you to their friends, if you feel up to it. Getting a bit out of your comfort zone might help you, but I realise you might not want to push yourself too far.

    You probably won't find your bff straight away but it's okay if you take a bit of time being able to find your people. At the end of the day, bearing in mind that find new friendships and building them up takes time, and not pushing yourself to be around people you don't feel connected to out of obligation, are important. idk if this is even helpful, but I hope it is.

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  3. Thebluepineapple
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Ceras
    thankyou this is helpful
  4. Aaronsis
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Thebluepineapple

    Hi Thebluepineapple

    It is great that you have started this thread and to reach out to get some conversation around how to make some new friends and settle into school, I can see that Ceras has given you some great tips and advice here.

    I am just wanting to talk about the heading of your thread in that you mentioned Bulimia. I was just wanting to know if you wanted to chat some more about that and how you are managing this. As you know it is a pretty serious illness and does require some help from a specialist who can focus on eating disorders. I hope you don't mind I just have some questions if you are already seeing someone for this, how you would feel about doing so and if it is something that controls your life on a daily basis? every meal? just sometimes.

    There is alot on your plate at the moment with new schools and discovering your sexuality and finding your people in this space as well, it is alot to deal with. I would really like to chat to you some more, you are not alone on this and we are here for you to give you some comfort at this time.

    As I said before in the other post, hug to you

    AS

  5. Thebluepineapple
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Aaronsis

    g'day Aaronsis,

    Thankyou for your support, my bulimia is fairly well controlled and i am seeing a great specialist who focuses on my disorder. As for how regular it is like i said it is pretty well controlled but it does shine though occasionally and when it does it will become kind of a phase and possibly go for a two or more weeks until i get it back under control. I love that you noticed that and pointed it out i really think that there should be more talk around issues like this because there is such a stigma and it effects more than just your physical wellbeing!

    This post just turned into a bit of a rant so i hope it makes sense

    xxpineapple

  6. Aaronsis
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Thebluepineapple

    Hey pineapple

    Please feel free to rant anytime you like, that is what we are here for to rant and to support and to get some conversations out there and to make each other feel some level of comfort, there are so many others that read these posts that don't post themselves but feel so much support also, so yes it is so important to get this issues out into the open. My stigma to smash is suicide so if everyone chips in and starts smashing stigmas...we are going to be good!

    I am so pleased to hear that you have it under control and have a great person to whom you can talk about this with and get some professional help, that is awesome.

    Great to chat to you and as I said, rant anytime you like.

    Hugs

    AS

  7. Thebluepineapple
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Aaronsis
    thankyou so much!
  8. Aaronsis
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Thebluepineapple
    ..anytime..anytime at all :)
  9. Thebluepineapple
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    27 November 2019 in reply to Aaronsis
    :)