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Topic: At rockbottom

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  1. AMichelle
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    20 February 2019
    I think I have reached breaking point. My anxiety is off the charts constantly, learning a new job and all the training, knowing that I need to get this job or everything has to be put on hold, just ahh. I think I am pushing myself way to much and it has hit that point where I am crumbling and I don’t know what to do or who to talk to.
    My job was fine before this new aspect of it but then again I need it to get this job and I think I have been expecting so much out of myself and I’m not living up to my own expectations. I’m my own worst enemy.
    I’m at one of my lowest points right now and it’s like, I know I can learn it but it’s just not happening. My body have given up and it feels like there is nothing I can do about that.

    I know that I am being hard on myself. I am only 20 and learning council shit but that’s the thing, I’m only 20 and I am a very emotional sensitive person so everything goes straight to my head. But because of this, I am pushing away the people at work because I don’t want to do more training, I don’t want to be told that I’m doing it wrong and I don’t even wanna know if I’m doing it right. I’m just done
  2. Croix
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    20 February 2019 in reply to AMichelle

    Dear AMichelle~

    Lots of people find training is hard, unwelcome and upsetting, particularly if the subject matter is not something they are familiar with. Then there is the pressure as you said, really needing the job.

    Being judged is hard, even if the result is positive. One can feel very unsure and if one is sensitive to start with can make the whole thing seem too hard.

    Many jobs have training to start with, or when new operations come about and unfortunately being able to deal with them is important.

    That does mean you are always alone. In your job is there a friendly supervisor or training officer you can go to and say you are having troubles? I'm sure you will not be the first person to have hassles.

    If there is no such person is there anyone else -perhaps a workmate who has done it and might give you a hand?

    Apart from the training itself trying to reduce the pressure is a good strategy, dong things in your life away from work that take your mind off the problems. Are there things you enjoy? Perhaps sport, perhaps reading or music? I'm only guessing, you would know.

    Please let us know how you get on


  3. PamelaR
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    21 February 2019 in reply to AMichelle

    Hi AMichelle and warm welcome

    Great you've found your way to our community. You will find there are many people who experience the same thing as you - especially when it comes to training / or learning something new.

    I'm exactly the same. My anxiety levels skyrocket and this in turn makes it impossible to learn. Currently I'm learning photography and lightroom post production. It stresses me no end and I get very defensive, come out in a sweat, my ears and eyes turn off when someone tries to show me what to do. Ugh. Don't you hate it?

    What do I do to cope - I kind of take a step back and breath. Turn away, go to the loo, go for a walk - and breath. Come back sit down and see how it goes. Often it doesn't work and I persevere through the session. Later when I'm sitting on my own, feeling calm (anxiety reduced significantly) I look at the things people have been trying to teach me. Sometimes I understand sometimes I don't. The big thing is - the brain is a huge organ. It has the capacity to take in lots of new information. However, when we're stressed/anxious the neurotransmitters in the brain don't work as effectively and cause blockages - making learning difficult. It doesn't mean you can't learn or don't really want to learn. It's just very difficult when you have that blockage.

    I've found for myself, learning to destress and to reduce my anxiety about not knowing everything has helped me learn. For me, it takes time. Some days are better than others. It all depends on if I've had a good night sleep, whether I'm feeling good or bad about myself.

    Hope some of this helps AMichelle to understand what may be happening to you. Everyone is different, so you may not see any similarities. I guess the challenge is to then find what is happening for you when it comes to learning something new.

    Kind regards