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Topic: Anxiety after opening up about domestic violence

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  1. RuneCat17464
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    17 October 2019
    About four months ago, I opened up to an adult about my past for the first time (domestic violence as a child, and toxic home environment (senior in high school). I've had a history of anxiety and depression since three years ago (officially) and usually I'm extremely careful about who I talk to about what and as I result I have not told anyone in any great detail apart from this person, who I initially did not intend on telling. I think I was just in a really bad place (its a lot, lot better now, much better at coping and I no longer suddenly 're-experience' those past traumas) and I just broke down in front of them. Though they were extremely supportive, I felt immensely guilty and ashamed of telling them (I didn't know them very well at the time). When I'm not occupied my mind is constantly occupied with the person I told and it really makes me upset that I can't stop worrying about what they think about me. I really am not sure what to do, any advice would be appreciated!
  2. Summer Rose
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    17 October 2019 in reply to RuneCat17464

    Hi RuneCat17464

    I can understand why you are upset, as once you tell someone something you can't untell them and none of us ever know for sure what someone else is thinking.

    Perhaps it would help to consider the evidence rather than anxious thoughts and worry. And the evidence shows ...

    You did nothing wrong. You unfortunately had a very traumatic childhood and that is not your fault.

    You have nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, you should be proud to have survived and be now getting on top of your mental health issues.

    The person you disclosed to provided you with support. The response was helpful and non-judgemental.

    Anyone with a heart and a pulse would feel nothing but compassion for you. Anyone who didn't isn't worth worrying about.

    I know it can be scary to open up and show vulnerability to other people but I really think--based on the evidence--that it's okay.

    Kind thoughts to you

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