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Topic: Anxiety(?). Please, help

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  1. Fluffal Cat
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    2 posts
    8 April 2019

    I don't really want to be a bother to anyone, but I really need to talk right now.

    So here goes nothing.

    It might not be as bad as what others have to go through, but I just can't fall asleep until it's about 3 or 4 in the morning. I sometimes don't sleep at all. Whenever I do try, I always panic, and/or think of trivial things, that have no relation whatsoever, but there's always a pit in my stomach, telling me something's going to go wrong.

    There are times at school where I get to class a little late, and I get so nervous about interrupting something important, or putting myself in a position where others might judge me, that I freeze, and just awkwardly stand outside the door. A lot of the times, I actually go to sick-bay, because I end up crying outside. I panic a lot when people ask me where I've been if I've been to the toilet, or been called out by the teacher to do something, and I don't work well with pressure on me.

    My mum booked an appointment with the GP the other day, because she said that I was being "simply ridiculous", but whenever the GP tried to ask me a question, my mother would just answer for me. I found it really difficult to deal with, and when I told my mum I was trying to tell the doctor how I really felt, she told me to be quiet, and that I didn't understand what was going on. In the end, the doctor just brushed it off, and whenever I did answer a question myself, my mother would say something like "That's not right! You feel/act like ____".

    I feel like my mum doesn't really understand how I feel in general. I found out a teacher had told my mum that I needed a little bit of emotional support, and my mother scolded me when I got home, telling me that I just being a pushover, and that I should spend more time on my studies.

    I would talk to my dad, but I don't think he'd be much better.

    After my mum had told him what had happened, he seemed to be in a sour mood. He was really angry at me, for no apparent reason, and while he was shouting at me to work faster, he suddenly burst into tears. He told me that there was no way that I was having a worse time then him, as "(he has) to work at a sh*tty job, with sh*tty people, anyway, (I) shouldn't be sad, because there's no reason for (me) to be!"

    Afterward, he just continued crying, before I tried to comfort him and calm him down.

    If anyone could give me any advice, it would be amazing.

    I wish I knew what to do.

    I'm sorry for wasting everyone's time anyway...

  2. Jake Vincent
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    1 posts
    8 April 2019 in reply to Fluffal Cat

    Hey,

    Just by reading this it sounds like you’re really having a tough time. No matter the reasons, you shouldn’t feel guilty for the way you’re feeling.

    I suggest you talk with your school guidance officer. During my high school days it was really helpful. It was one-on-one conversations, private and very supportive during those hard days when I couldn’t talk to my parents about things. So yeah, do that, talk it out and things will eventually get better.

    Peace ✌️

  3. MsPurple
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    8 April 2019 in reply to Fluffal Cat

    Hi Fluffal cat and welcome to the forums

    Please don't think you have wasted anyone time. You have not. Here on the forums it is ok to ask for support and advice. This is what it is for. We can all ask and give support.

    It sounds like you are personally going through a tough time with your parents not having an understanding of mental health. Unfortunately some people don't understand. It would be good to educate them so they can understand, but I don't think now is the time. Need to look after you and help you get the help and support you need. I myself have been in similar shoes struggling with mental healthy while at school.

    Can I ask how old you are. Just wondering because when you are 16, medically you are considered an adult. You can ask to see the doctor alone and to not discuss things with your mother. Confidentiality is taken very seriously. If you are not 16 that is ok, you can request to your mum to see the doctor alone. If that isn't possible you could ask to see the school counsellor (can ask about confidentiality if that's a concern).

    There is also a service that you can access online and it is completely free. Well you know about beyond blue forums and the chat section (bottom right of this page). But there is a youth mental health service called headspace. There are centres around Australia as well an online service. It is a free service for people aged 12-25 years. I have been to centres as well as used the online service and I found it was really helpful for me. To find out more info please see www.eheadspace.org.au I suggest having at look at these services. The forums are great but we are not professionals and the support will not be instant

    I hope some of this has been helpful. I know it is tough, but trust me it gets better.