Speaker 1: The main part of depression anxiety is that you feel really, really isolated and you feel really, really alone. And to know that other people do actually wanna talk to you is really important and really helps.
Speaker 2: To slowly edge into that conversation is the best way to go.
S1: So that it's not being really confronting and weird. If you normally joke around with them, then make a few jokes.
Speaker 3: "How's life treating you at the moment?" Just simple questions to get that conversation started.
Speaker 4: You could say like, "I notice that you're not the same at the moment. Are you going through anything?"
Speaker 5: You say you're okay, but are you really okay?
S3: Chances are if this has been kind of playing on their mind for so long, they'll be like, "Oh, thank goodness someone's asked. Now I can start to let it out."
S2: As soon as you let them know they are not alone in the situation they're in, they'll be more prone to opening up.
Speaker 6: For somebody to ask and be worried about how I was, it made me think that I was worth something to someone. I thought I was alone on this journey, but to have that one glimpse of hope was at least a start.
S3: Listening is one of the best things that you can do for a friend so that they can kind of clear their mind.
S5: It's helpful to hear somebody else reflect back your thoughts, especially when things are just so scrambled and chaotic in your own head, and bring some sort of an order to the chaos, I guess.
Speaker 7: Connect with some of the feelings they've been going through.
S5: She wouldn't try to force her opinion on me or try to find solutions or answers to all the problems I was going through.
S6: Not kind of jumping into kind of prescribing you some kind of treatment or solution.
S7: Ask them, "What do you feel like doing about it?" Even if you don't know what to say, it's just listening and trying to understand what's going on.
S4: Once you get it out of there, it's sort of like weight lifted off your shoulders. You feel a lot better.
S7: Because often a person just wants someone there to listen to them whenever they are ready to talk.
S1: Instead of trying to guess what they want you to do, just ask them, "What can I do for you? How can I help you?"
S3: It's just making it known that you're there to help them in any way you can.
S1: She kind of suggested, "Why don't you go into the school counsellor? Would you like me to come with you to go and see someone?"
S6: Looking at the different online services they can have at their fingertips.
S3: And just planting that seed in their mind so that they might think, "You know what, I'll check out the beyondblue website."
S5: Text messages were fantastic for me. I could revisit that at any time of the day that I needed that little bit of an extra boost.
S4: It does make your day.
S3: You don't want the conversation to be entirely centred around how they're feeling all the time.
S1: Because I didn't want anyone to treat me differently.
S5: Be careful that you keep things confidential.
S4: Don't go and gossip to other people about what they're going through.
S3: Why wouldn't you help your mate? Why wouldn't you have that conversation with them?
S4: You might be the only person that they're gonna open up to. So it's important that you check in with your friend if you notice that something isn't right.
S6: Just go for it. If my friend hadn't taken that step and that risk with me, I wouldn't be sitting here today.