Speaker 1: If your friend doesn't wanna talk, don't let that throw you off. They may shut you down. They may tell you to go away and mind your own business, but if you keep reminding them that you care no matter what they're going through, no matter what they do, it gives you hope.
Speaker 2: Figure out a way to bring it up later, without making them feel pressured or anything.
Speaker 3: It'll be just one case where you do check in that somebody will then find the confidence to finally open up that conversation.
Speaker 4: Let them know that you're gonna be there for them. It is a hard time. Empathise with them. Equip yourself with the knowledge from the beyondblue website, just so you can understand and kinda say the right things to them.
Speaker 5: Never give up if somebody's not talking to you. You should continue to talk to them and let them know that you're always gonna be there.
Speaker 5: Having to do it by yourself is quite daunting. Saying, "Let's go see someone together. I'll come with you. Let's make a booking," makes you feel like you're not in the journey to getting better alone.
Speaker 6: That was so much more helpful than saying "Just go and do this. Go and see that person. That'll make you better."
S1: My friend said to me, "If you don't wanna do it for yourself, please try and do it for me," and that was it. That's what got me over the line.
S3: Source out other ways they can gain support if they're not quite ready to talk to a professional.
S2: beyondblue and all that sort of stuff. There's fact sheets and all that.
S3: Online support forums, where you're talking with other people that are going through or have been through the experience of mental illness.
S1: Different phone services that you can call, and it's completely confidential and you can unload on that person and it never come back to bite you.
S4: Plant those seeds in their mind so that when the time's right for them and they are feeling up to looking at these different options, they can follow that avenue and find the help they need.
S1: It's a hard situation, 'cause it is very scary when you have that thought that your friend might not be safe. A lot of the time, you don't want to talk to an adult. I didn't want to talk to an adult, but there comes a time when it is necessary for an adult, that you trust, to be involved, because it can mean the difference of your friend sticking around or not, and we do need that extra help from time to time. If you're not sure where to go, call one of the support lines. Don't forget, there's always triple zero there, especially if you fear for somebody's life.
S1: If you're worried about breaking their trust and you think your friend's gonna get mad at you if you go and talk with an adult, it'll be a short-term anger towards you, I guess for a long-term outcome your friend will still be around, they'll be safe, and they'll learn to understand as they get better and recover, that what you did for them was a huge step toward them still being around.