Holidays are the time of year when you can kick back, relax, spend long lazy days in the sun and nights partying with your friends. For some people, however, the holidays can be a sad, lonely or stressful time.

Dr Nicole Highet is a psychologist and Deputy CEO of beyondblue. She says that a lot of people might look back on 2009 and feel overwhelmed by things that have happened throughout the year. Others may have personal or family problems that can seem to get worse at Christmas or New Year.

“If people have been through life changes, the holiday season is often a time of reflection that can lead to distress,” Dr Highet said.

“If you have family members, friends, school or uni mates who have been through a big change, this is a time to reach out to them. Even if it’s just asking them if they’re OK.”

Dr Highet added that people who are alone, or have lost a loved one, or currently have depression or anxiety disorders are particularly vulnerable to feelings of distress during the holidays. Sometimes those who are having a tough time might not get invited to parties, which can make the time lonelier for them.

“When someone is experiencing depression or anxiety, it’s easy to say ‘I’m not inviting them, they’re no fun’, but they are the people who may need help,” she said.

“Be aware of people who might be on their own. If you’re lucky enough to you’re your mates and family around you, I’d suggest inviting others who are facing the prospect of a lonely Christmas or New Year to share that with you.”

Warning signs to watch for over the holiday period

• If you’ve had depression before, be aware of the symptoms that may lead to depression. If you haven’t, watch for the loss of ability to function normally, out-of-character behaviour, suicidal thoughts, feeling like there is no hope for the future, not being able to sleep or eat or feeling nervous and anxious.
• In other people, you may notice they withdraw and no longer seem to enjoy themselves, are overly moody and may appear to have slowed down or may get angry easily.
• If someone you know is partying too hard and drinking too much, be aware that this may be a sign of a mental health problem.
• It’s important to think realistically about the holidays. If you’re facing the holiday season without your family and you know you’ll find it difficult, let people know. Plan ahead to make sure you’ll be spending time with people you like.

beyondblue’s info line - 1300 22 4636 - will operate 24/7 over the holiday period for anyone needing information on depression, anxiety and related drug and alcohol problems.  A list of symptoms of depression and anxiety, checklists and other information about effective treatments and how to help someone can be found at www.beyondblue.org.au. If you need urgent assistance call Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800, Lifeline on 13 11 14, or the Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467.